Half Dad, Half Misfit

  Saw this at the weekend, and holy cow, this is the perfect three-word phrase to pop a narcissists bubble in a moment. I think it's a "nuclear option" if you have to see them again, because although it would totally work in the moment, they will be unable to take ownership of the embarrassment/shame you briefly instill in them, and will somehow try to DARVO it onto you later. But it would be ideal for dealing with a one-off narcissist, like someone acting obnoxiously in public place such as a restaurant or shop - and far better if it comes from a anonymous bystander, than from the waiter/shop assistant themselves.

If you look into game theory, there are several types of game, e.g., negative sum and zero sum games. See  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Game_theory Simon Sinek then talks about finite and infinite games.  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Infinite_Game ---- In a narcissistic relationship you are playing an infinite game; multiple rounds, and for each round, the  score mostly is negative, because they set you up with no-win situations.  (I'll admit they sprinkle in a few wins, just to keep you playing, a bit like a one-armed bandit does) I say negative score, because even when the narcissist "wins", they really aren't ever "happier" for it. How low can you go before you realise, like WOPR did, "The only winning move is not to play?"

 Been feeling down about the state of the world lately This post suggests small things you can do to stop participating in The Decline https://www.webworm.co/p/mutualaid

Yet another video that perfectly matched my lived experience. I remember the couples counselling we did where she couldn't acknowledge the hypocrisy of telling me we were broke because I was spending too much money while I was actually trying to never spend money and she was constantly buying things!

Novel about a movie location scout who also works as a private eye in the quiet season. Set in modern day Canada. Nice plot, covers issues of male suicide, rich people covering up crimes, and female comedians. 5/5, a nice book, just what I needed

“Piss in a toaster” is a term for something technical-sounding that’s been promised to the CEO, that is pointless, wasteful, very risky, burns out your staff and offers no benefits to anyone. It sounds like such a simple request, so middle management feels shy about asking too many questions about why exactly it needs to be done in case they get targeted in the next restructure, and just to make sure it's done. Then once it’s promised, no wants to ask the CEO why it needs to be done in case they look dumb. Here are some of the things you will hear from the manager who has told the CEO that you will piss in a toaster for them: “I told the CEO we can piss in a toaster for $1000. I’ve done the hard part of researching it. Now you just need to piss in the toaster by next Tuesday!” “I looked online, and ordered a toaster off Amazon for $20. Why won’t you just piss in the toaster for the CEO?” “The CEO is always right! Just piss in the toaster.” “What if I get one of those 4 slice toaste...