Narcissists Toxic Money Habits

Yet another video that perfectly matched my lived experience.


I remember the couples counselling we did where she couldn't acknowledge the hypocrisy of telling me we were broke because I was spending too much money while I was actually trying to never spend money and she was constantly buying things!


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