Parental Alienation

 


I am so frustrated; it's a horrible game to play. It started before we separated and it just gets worse.

The advice is all "don't give up" but it gets so hard; how do you cope when you are physically and emotionally pushed away every fucking time. 

It feels like a game where:
  • anything you do gets used against you and You Lose 
  • anything you don't do gets used against you and You Lose, 
  • and if you give up and stop playing, your Child Loses and You Lose
And every time you get to spend with your child gets slowly eaten away:
  • oh no, it's not on purpose, but it just 'happens' that your daughter gets a job which happens to be in the supermarket 200m from the mother's house, and 10km from your house, so it's "just easier if I sleep at mums all the time",
  • oh no, it's not on purpose, but it just 'happens' to be that your one night a week you spend with your daughter, your daughter gets enrolled in her fifth sport of the week, ensuring that there are no free evenings in a week that you can spend with her
  • oh no, it's not on purpose, but it just happens to be that when you do get your daughter to visit your house once in a while, between her sports and work, she 'happens' to start verbal and physical fights so that she can say that it's horrible at your house and she doesn't like visiting.
And yet, if you give up, your daughter loses.

It's a fucking hard game to play when you know you will never win, but someone you love will lose if you stop playing.

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